Clearing the Cobwebs: Rediscovering My Natural Self

By: Kim Brassor

One Voice Evolving

As I embark on this journey of deconstructing whiteness, the first essential step is clearing out the cobwebs—those memories and experiences long tucked away, often forgotten or deliberately silenced. I’m reconnecting with my earliest self, the young girl at two, three, or four years old, who was always observing, interpreting, and immediately expressing herself—what I now understand as “living out loud.”

Back then, this meant running to the door whenever someone knocked, bursting out with declarations like, “You wanna know how old my mama is? She’s 42!” It meant frequent escapes—across highways, into deserts, or into neighborhoods I didn’t fully understand—simply because the world intrigued me, called to me, begged me to engage.

But this instinctive openness wasn’t always encouraged. Often it was met with correction, discipline, and the subtle yet persistent message that such bold curiosity was somehow wrong or inappropriate. Over time, those messages took hold. I learned to temper my voice, to observe more quietly, and to fit into spaces shaped by conformity and caution.

Right now, my task is simply to uncover and remember these stories—to dust off the details and honor the curiosity of that younger self. The deeper implications, the unpacking, and the reframing through the lens of whiteness will come next.

For now, it is enough to acknowledge and clear away the cobwebs, preparing the ground for what comes next: the deliberate, transformative work of deconstructing whiteness.

Join me as I clear the path, laying bare the stories that shape the journey ahead. If you’re inspired to join me in making this journey sacred and deeply personal, I invite you to become a paid Substack member, granting exclusive access to the unfolding stages of this transformative work including our MY OWN 7-day dopamine detox TO calm MY MIND AND body.  This is where pre-work begins and I can interact with paid subscribers personally in email, chats or livestreams.

We deeply appreciate your continued connection and interest.

Right now, my energy is fully rooted in integrity-centered projects that refuse to sanitize or soften truth for white comfort or corporate palatability. It has become crystal clear to me that I can no longer enter rooms where the presence of misogynistic men in power renders marginalized voices unsafe—regardless of the paycheck. That season is over.

I'm channeling my full attention into two core offerings:

1. “Deconstructing Whiteness” – a series on my One Voice Evolving Substack, exclusive for paid subscribers. This work is rigorous, unapologetically decolonial, and centered on disrupting the very architecture of white socialization and systems.

2. “Trouble With 12-Step” – launching 9/1/2025, it’s a liberation-centered framework for folks navigating life-damaging habits, built on truth, not doctrine. It’s not about recovery—it’s about reclamation.

If you or your network are aligned with this kind of truth-telling, feel free to subscribe, amplify, or invite me into spaces that are actively unlearning and ready to transform. I'm not looking to educate the unwilling. I'm building with the brave.

Let’s co-create, not compromise.

Much love,

--Kim

PS-Are you ready for more? I invite you to listen to the podcast-One Voice Evolving: Resilience Reimagined. I'm thrilled to journey with you as we challenge biases, embrace practical strategies, and inspire each other to grow.